Happy happy new year to you! I hope 2017 has treated you well so far. Thanks for joining me here again. we have so much to talk about.
How was your holiday? (I know you’ve probably been asked a gazillion times by now.)
It’s great that people care. It can be lovely to bring that holiday vibe back to life – even for a short time. And it’s fun to get up to speed on other people’s lives when you haven’t been in touch for a while.
But what if you’re not really feeling it? What if your answer, being truthful, is that the beginning of the year has NOT been fabulous for you? That’s been my reality, with illness, injury, bushfire, a major battle with a telecommunications company…all kinds of inauspicious ways to start the year.
Which got me to thinking: if everyone else is all ra-ra about the start of their year, what can you do when your new year mojo just won’t flow? Here are four ideas to get you started.
I’ve been honest, when people ask, about things that didn’t go according to plan these holidays. Hopefully not in a moan-fest kind of way (although the folks who’ve heard the telecommunications nightmare story may dispute that!). But when we’re so used to sanitizing and filtering our lives through social media – and I’m as guilty of this as the next person – I’ve decided to just be real.
And you know what? Being real brings out the BEST stories. I’ve had some big laughs with friends over travel plans gone hopelessly awry, brand-new tents being pelted with rocks, children vomiting in particularly unfortunate holiday locations – all the things which are stressful at the time but make the best tales later. (Remember this – the very best stories have an element of trouble about them. Milk the drama.)
Keeping in mind that many people feel compelled to present their best selves to the world, it’s easy to feel like your holiday, or your plans for this year, don’t match up. Your friends have three exotic overseas trips planned this year, and you’ll be doing well if you get out for a long weekend on the peninsula. That kind of thing. But you know what? Their priorities are not your priorities; your reality is not their reality – and only you know what really matters for you. Stay in your own lane.
You social media feeds may have been full of new-year challenges, goal-setting strategies and planning outlines. Some of that may feel really helpful – or it may just feel overwhelming. Figure out what works for you, do that, and ignore all the rest. Plans and intentions don’t have to be huge, or follow someone else’s schedule, to be meaningful for you. Quit comparing, and you’ll feel lighter.
Now let’s get something straight – I’m not suggesting you get plastic surgery here! If you want to make a lifestyle change, try setting a goal which is really tiny – but make sure you do that thing every single day. Choose a goal so tiny that it would be a very bad day indeed if you can’t reach your target. I have to give credit for this idea to Stephen Guise – his book Mini Habits is well worth a read if you’re sick and tired of setting resolutions and then having your motivation peter out after a few weeks.
I only ever change one small thing at a time at a time in terms of my daily mindset practices. For example, last year I started a routine of writing down what I’m grateful for before I go to sleep, and it made such a difference to my mood and sense of appreciation for all that is good in my life – now I can’t imagine not doing it. But this year I’ve added a new element, just to shake things up a bit – nothing demanding or too challenging, but do-able. Keep your goals teeny-tiny, and see what they add up to.
Be Matchy-Matchy Tracksuity
The holiday/real-life distinction is actually kind of arbitrary. Why not make it less of a division between the two? Spend some time reflecting on what were the best parts of your holiday, and find ways to incorporate at least one of those elements into your not-on-holiday life. Loved all the seafood when you were away? Search out the best sources for fresh seafood at home, and find yourself some great recipes for inspiration. Blissed out by reading lots of books? Start going to bed twenty minutes earlier so you give yourself time and space for more of that at home. You get the idea!
My brother inspired a quest to find a waterfall while we were on holiday, and it was a real challenge to find, but so spectacular when we got there. That gave me one of my favorite holiday moments. So now we’ve resolved to find the closest waterfall wherever we go. Including at home. Which led to this – who knew there was such an amazing waterfall right here in Dunedin? Bring the holiday vibe home, long live the holiday!
So now I’d love to hear from you. What’s one thing you’re keen to try, to get your new year groove back?